Lauretta Hannon: On school blues and what not to wear
by Lauretta Hannon
July 15, 2013 11:37 PM | 1138 views | 2 2 comments | 29 29 recommendations | email to a friend | print
Q: I’m on the board of a charter school where my kids attend. I was privy to some information regarding personnel that I questioned in front of my children during a dinner conversation in which I was trying to understand the situation. (My very bad.) One of my kids “shared” the confidential info with some of her classmates, and I got the phone call from the administrator informing me of our transgressions. (Said administrator actually bullied me to tears looking for the confession she eventually got.) I offered up my resignation to the president of the board, and she did not accept it. She said some former and current board members had done much worse. Should I have insisted on my resignation? I no longer get along with or respect this particular administrator. She acts like a petulant child if she doesn’t get her way, and I feel I cannot support some of the decisions she is making.

A: Having worked at a private school, I can tell you the No. 1 problem we faced was meddling by parent board members. Your tone suggests that you don’t realize the extent of the damage you’ve caused. Your poor decision only added negativity and affected more families and school staff than you know. And heavens to Murgatroyd, why did you drag your children into the mess?

All of that said, I can also assure you that your behavior is mild compared to some of the histrionics and devilish plots hatched by parents. The administrator is trying to run a school, and it’s ironic that parents are usually the greatest obstacles in the equation.

As to the resignation, I’d take some things into consideration. Are you compelled to oust the administrator for the true good of the school? If so, continue to serve on the board. If not, then step down and focus on different ways to contribute to your kids’ educational experience. Actually, I think the latter would be the better idea: Go ahead and resign.

Q: Should I enlighten an acquaintance that some of her outfits reveal her “lady bits” or her thong underwear? Or should I just assume she has a mirror and is doing it on purpose? The woman in question has a very responsible job and deals with influential people. I feel that she is hurting her image but hesitate to insert myself into the situation. However, I would want to know! (Fortunately, I have a daughter who serves as my personal “fashion police.”)

A: Yes, if you can help her you should. Have a chat, and keep the tone light-hearted and super-kind. Explain that your daughter keeps you “straight” in that department and that you’d like to assist her as well.

Her response will tell you if the attire is intentional or just ignorant. You will be helping her regardless. Even if she thinks her style is perfectly suitable, your words may have an impact a little further down her professional journey. Most importantly, you spoke up with the right intention rather than leaving the unmentionables unmentioned.

Send your questions to notyourgrannysadvice@gmail.com.

Lauretta Hannon, a resident of Powder Springs, is the bestselling author of The Cracker Queen—A Memoir of a Jagged, Joyful Life and a keynote speaker. Southern Living has named her “the funniest woman in Georgia.” See more at thecrackerqueen.com.
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suze2014
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July 16, 2013
The response about clothing is right on! Lot's of us (me) are smart women with not-so-great body awareness for clothing or otherwise. We NEED those friends who can kindly, with some levity, let us know when we've got a wardrobe malfunction going on. I'm thankful for the times I heard words that hurt on impact but helped in the long run. Sometimes the mirror is just not enough, so an honest friend is a great gift.
Rockhavenw
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July 16, 2013
Uh oh! Regarding the fasion faux pas issue: I feel an intervention coming on! I am hoping "she" will read this column before I have to see her again!

And, you are right on about the school board issue....
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